Huwebes, Abril 11, 2013

Dealing With "The Other Woman"

Okay, let's start by defining what "mistress" or "other woman."

Mistress (noun): a woman who has a continuing relationship with a committed/married man.

In truth about love, love is not always happy. More often than not, one person loves deeper than the other and this imbalance causes great pain. They say that the one who loves less in a relationship gets the alpha position. Well I guess it's true because no matter how much pain you're in, you'd be willing to endure everything just for the sake of your so-called partner in life. Don't get me wrong, I believe love gives you the best feeling in the world, but I also believe that it can also give you the worst.

I have this boyfriend for more than a year already and like any other couple, we fight. There came a point where we decided to cool things off for a bit and give each other space because sometimes, it really is better to not be just confined with each other all the time. We were still talking until this friend of mine, yes she WAS a friend, took advantage of the situation. I confronted my boyfriend and he admitted that something happened between them during our "cool off time" and promised that it'll never happened again; and of course being the naive girl that I am, believed him. We were back in each other's arms but something was always off and I can never pinpoint exactly what it is.

Then the girl posted a picture of her and my boyfriend, together, just the two of them side by side. I didn't know what to do. I trusted him and yet I see pictures of them? I confronted him and I can't believe what he just said, he claimed that they went out because they were "best friends." What just happened? Weeks ago they were lovers, then separated now they are BEST FRIENDS? How can that be possible? He even told me that he will leave me if I ever harm his best friend. WTF?

And you know what? I endured it. As said, the one who loves less possess the alpha position in the relationship and the one who loves deeper endures. Many times I have proven that he is willing to give up everything about our relationship for the sake of the other girl. I know I am being stupid for even staying but I am still human despite everything and I know, there will come a time that I'll just wake up and say "fuck this shit. I'm done." and when that time comes, I will never look back again. I will find myself someone better, someone more worth it and will make me feel that I am not just a mere option, but the chosen one.

For now, let me endure the pain, I can still take it. Let me emotionally damage myself for I know I will come back as a better and stronger person. To all the women out there, always remember the golden rule: Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you. Karma's a bitch, it may not come for you now but when you're least expecting it, it'll come to you and stab you not just at the back, but up front as well. May mistresses find logic in their thinking. I am praying for them.